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July 12, 2017 15:27  

This has been giving me sleepless nights, I just want to pour my heart out to someone. 

 

 

I have been in a relationship with this pretty thing for 5 years and 7 months now and in the course of these years, there's absolutely nothing myself and this girl hasn't been through, from starving together, using pit toilet, sleeping on bare ground during my struggling days, and lest I forget, I deflowered this chick and taught her every thing she knows. 

 

 

With time things began to get better and there's no sweeter feeling a man can get seeing you do well with the same woman you struggled with. I had taken her home to my parents, met her family too and the stage is set to tie the knot this year ending 

 

 

Now things took a heavy twist December last year, she went out and met a guy and gave out my number instead of hers, she does this normally to scare guys away, but this time it was different when the nigga started chatting me up thinking it was her, there wasn't any need to vex until she came to my place, snooped around my phone and got his number and was secretly chatting with him, I caught her desame very day, she begged blocked him on WhatsApp and we let it go. 

 

 

 

But that wasn't enough cos she continued until they both started dating few weeks after that day. 

 

 

I caught her the very first weekend she visited his place and bleeped him from Saturday till Monday, it was the toughest moment of my life cos I ran into her fb chat a day before she went there but someone you have been with almost 6 years, you take care of her every wellbeing ranging from upkeep money, hair, clothes and all don't blame me cos with those amount of suffering together before things got good she obviously deserved it, so I had to give her a benefit of doubt, but no feeling crazier than laying in your bed and some fu.uck boy banging your wife to be. 

 

 

Now lemme make this clear,when it comes to se.x, I was the monster in the relationship, I am huge down there, plus an undying high libido which she constantly complains of,she's weak in bed and would pass out at just a round, but I loved her truly, never cheated with the believe that as time went by she would improve, so if there was someone who was to cheat, it's got to me, cos she barely satisfies me. 

 

 

After the first weekend, I confronted her the very day she left the guys place, came to me tired, the normal animal that I use to be based on my rugged kind of life in my university days, I would drill her like no tomorrow, but I didn't allow my anger take a better of me cos I would have ended up in a cell. 

 

 

She begged, called my best friend, nigga had to travel down, called her friends and family to plead on her behalf and the most degrading thing was that she allowed this same stranger she bleeped chat me up begging for her, I didn't even know he was the one, cos I was thinking it was some other guy she had bleeped, never in my wildest dream thought it would be this same new guy I sternly warned her about and she had blocked on WhatsApp too. 

 

 

 

I forgave and let it go, the hardest thing I have done in my life, forgive a cheating partner, started taking care of her like I always did, this time even more, besides I took it se.x isn't love. 

 

 

 

Now just yesterday I am finding out after that weekend, she didn't stop she kept going to visit him weekends with lies she was at her sis, he would take her outing and they would Bleep all through the weekend, it went on until February this year 

 

 

Please is a crime as this forgivable?? 

 

The first is forgivable, call it a mistake, but after summoning an entourage to beg, she went on bleeping and dating the dude till February cos she had gone through his phone and found out he was a complete flirt before she stopped 

 

 

When asked why, as they will always say, "I didn't know what came over me", "it was like I wasn't with my senses" Bla Bla Bla, 

 

She's like I am big, so she was feeling pains, Bla Bla Bla, his was small, see matter on top my head Sha, the shima wash me finish where one stranger dey Sha 

 

 

 

I am a broken man right now, the hard part is how much I have boasted about this babe to my parents making them have no option to like her, she visits my dad's house and even spend the weekend, not a time my mom calls and doesn't ask after her, why now?, woman I am suppose to marry soonest, is it the investment or sacrifices?, the way I care for this girl, sometimes I look at my mom and pity for myself, cos I haven't spent 1 out of 10 for my mom. 

 

 

 

I just needed to pour this out, please comments are welcome 

 

Note I ain't no novice to women affairs, but it gets to a time in a man's life where it's no longer jumping from skirt to skirt I can't be living that life at 30.


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Angela
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July 14, 2017 13:23  

This is very interesting. All her life with u, seemed like she was caged. She met you in her early life and has being faithful till she met this dude who blown her mind majestically away.  She would have dumped you. 

It's kind of my story. The difference was that, I had lots of fun before I got disvirginned. Forgive her and get married. You have had so many girls before her, having a little fling for herself isn't bad. Is all called experiencing. Forgiving should be welcoming.  


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felix
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July 14, 2017 20:19  

I won't forgive. Am different, if I marry her, I will still have that bad feeling about how she hurt me by banging another guy. I go use that marriage tire her. We will both be in bondage. To avoid stories of later days. I will break up the marriage and move on. Just like Angela said, she would have dump me.  


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Angela
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July 14, 2017 20:26  

The non virgins you are going for do you know how many guys they had sex with .  she is a novice and her friends might have talked her into trying a smaller dick.  Bros your joystick big , and she needed closure . 


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felix
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July 14, 2017 20:27  

Virgins don't stay in one place, once you open that place finish, so go wan fuck all the guys. It is hard to find a virgin who does not want another guy after the first guy.  


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amanda
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July 14, 2017 20:34  

the closure na unto say the guy no sabi use he big dick on her . guys lack in certain ways when the meet a girl who is a virgin , they just stick to one way . it is possible for a virgin girl to want to be fucked in different style . I think the guy was too relaxed in trying something new with her. Guy for me forgive her and take her back , and mke sure you work on the way you fuck her .


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felix
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July 14, 2017 20:36  

@angela, did you dump the guy who disvirginned you for another? That really bad. @amanda, why didn't she say how she loved to be fucked? Instead of running off to one unseriouss guy to smash her. Seriously that thing dey scatter man head. Especially as she moans when you fuck her.  


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Angela
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July 14, 2017 20:40  

@felix, virgins do stay with one guy . they leave when you treat them like a property. Felix I did not dump anyone .  I was in a relationship with a guy who was into women constantly denying ,I didn't have sex with him . while I got into another relationship who was into girls and he tells me . he made me trust him and he disvirginned me . there is something the guy was missed . and do you think a virgin can say anything  about sex  she is new to ? 


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felix
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July 14, 2017 20:43  

She was forgiven at first, why did she go back to the guy again?. She was just being wicked, and portray the act of an ungrateful gf.  


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amanda
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July 14, 2017 20:45  

lol, she went back because she loved how he fucked her . He fucks her better . A guy is suppose to upgrade sexually with a girl he just disvirginned , she needs to be groomed into enjoying sex .


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Angela
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July 14, 2017 20:48  

Hahaha, maybe he was not going down on her.  He doesn't lick her clit nipple her pussy with his tongue. 


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amanda
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July 14, 2017 20:52  

Is not every guy with a big dick that can fuck .In most cases . those guys with big dicks should make sure the girl is very wet before putting it inside her pussy . or use lubricate . Admin let  this guy go and learn how to make his wife to be satisfied .if not she go dey smash that guy after them marry ,


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godwin
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July 14, 2017 21:05  

I find it hard to believe this admin story. For what I have seen so far, girls always run back to the guy who disflowered them.  That is why they sayy first cut is the deepest 


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Honey
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July 14, 2017 21:16  

@felix, how do you expect a girl who just started having sex to tell  A PRO how to fuck her , when she does not even know how she can cum , or what they call orgasm . The guy thought he has gotten a follower . one routine everyday . They are not married yet and she feels like a prisoner . You disvirginned her , good , were you spicing up the relationshp ? girls are always very shy . After my first time, i was shy ,till the banga fall out from my eyes . After angela had her first sex she was very shy to look into the guy's eyes . She didnt know how to face him , i encouraged her, talking to him on the phone was like killing her ,how do you expect such girl to tell her bf how to fuck her  . Everyone has different reaction towards their bf especially to those who disvirginned them. Like i said money isnt everything .


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Angela
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July 14, 2017 21:32  

If she complained having pains on your joystick , I think you should not just insert it into their stuff just like that . play with her clit and touch every part of her body, then you can feel and read her reaction, you can detect which part she enjoyed be touched the most . Am a very shy girl, my first bf made me rid on his big cock and I did, got the amazing wetnes , and that was the first time I came after several sex .   

As a girl who just got disvirginned , they enjoy to watch how the guy behave during sex , its all a strong to them .  it is now left for the guy if he can make he find her spot . 


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July 14, 2017 21:35  

the guy no dey try. Most guys think because a girl is sexually naive they just serve her just the way it pleases them. They forgot that, she can learn from different places.  And when she expect him to do those things she has heard or learnt and he doesn't, they just fall out of place by experiencing what they have always desired.  


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July 14, 2017 22:40  

I dey fine big dick to suit my pussy, and babe dey say complain .lol. Na both ways oh,na either you forgive her and learn how to shag well with your dick.  Or you go and look for girls like me .  she still firm , take her back and shag her well . 


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ShUla
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July 15, 2017 05:59  

Dump the girl now. repeated cheating is not to be pardoned. it's become a habit. she will never stop. free her and free yourself. forget your sacrifices. they are what you called them-sacrifices. your future and happiness is more important than anything you have spent.


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July 15, 2017 09:48  
Posted by: Shola

Dump the girl now. repeated cheating is not to be pardoned. it's become a habit. she will never stop. free her and free yourself. forget your sacrifices. they are what you called them-sacrifices. your future and happiness is more important than anything you have spent.

Nice words, but seriously if you have been in love you will appreciate the guy's situation. Its difficult to shut a heart 


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Macjive
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July 15, 2017 09:57  
Posted by: viv

I dey fine big dick to suit my pussy, and babe dey say complain .lol. Na both ways oh,na either you forgive her and learn how to shag well with your dick.  Or you go and look for girls like me .  she still firm , take her back and shag her well . 

There is another option, let her satisfay your sexual urge outside ,as long as not with anyone you know. while keep her love with you.

Na mostly Oyibo thing be that sha. very few naija men can take that . 


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Vjvinni
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July 15, 2017 11:22  

Personally  I always avoid  learners and virgins...  Always ...  


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Vjvinni
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July 15, 2017 11:29  

Move on man life is too short to worry about the wrong woman...  And there is never the right woman /man too...  The world is fucked up right


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sexyrose
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July 15, 2017 15:31  

@vyinni and shola, moving on na so e easy. Walia, pray you don't fall inlove. This guy can't move on, he has invested so much emotions in that relationship. Forgive and postpone your wedding, let her be have her fun.   


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Vjvinni
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July 15, 2017 16:01  

@Sexyrose  I know  it is difficult but  my mother use to tell my Vinni  if  she loves u she would stay look at me I stayed 30+strong years   ...  Trust me I worked on myself not to be like my father.. .  never force it....what most ladies do is manage till something better comes along.... For this my life I don see something ooo.... 


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